A few years ago I had my DNA test. I wanted to know about my ethnic background. I knew I was a mutt. I have dark curly hair...did my hair come from Irish decent, Scottish, African, this is what I really wanted to know.
I think everyone should have a DNA test done. Watch this video, these people were sure they know who they were. After their DNA came back some of them found out the countries they hated were their countries also.
I used 23 and me to test me DNA. Here is my ethnic breakdown:
Other interesting details I found through 23 and me:
Edited July 9, 2016
I removed "All lives matter" from the post just a few minutes after posting. It was pointed out that this phrase can be considered a slap in the face of those that a part of Black Lives Matter. I did not mind deleting the phrase and did so quickly. BUT I have had a few emails questioning why I removed the phrase. Some of the emails are down right rude and made the assumption that can only support one or the other. Really, are we that simple minded? The phrase is not ONLY black lives matter, it is black lives matter...it is not exclusive. More than one thing can matter. For example:
Heart beats matter.
A lot of things matter.
Or an even better examples:
Children lives matter.
Elderly lives matter.
Asian lives matter.
White lives matter.
Christian lives matter.
Jews lives matter.
Muslim lives matter.
Native American lives matter.
Indian lives matter.
Latino lives matter.
LGBT lives matter.
The problem with All lives matter is it negated the real issue...Blacks are being targeted.
You neighbors. Your friends. Your co-workers. Your peers. They are being targeted. Trying to redirect to ALL lives matters takes the focus off the problem. Even if you do not believe the statistics (which I believe), the Black committee perceives they are being targeted. Shouldn't we speak up and try to help find a solution so the problem (real and perceived) can be fixed!
On the same topic you can believe and say Black lives matters AND Back the blue all at the same time! In Dallas, the police were walking hand in hand with the peaceful protesters of the Black lives matters group. A radical crazy man shot the police not a Black lives matters supporter.
How do we, White people, speak up? How to we support African Americans and police?
Originally written July 7, 2016
I woke up this morning and began my morning like any other. I picked up my phone, checked my email, text message, and remind app all for work since it is a clinic day and students regularly have issues on clinic days. Then I check USA Today, twitter, Instagram, and lastly Facebook. I realize once I am in Facebook that the news articles I skipped over in USA Today are not about the shooting of the CD man but of yet another black male.
I watched the Facebook live video of Philandro Castile. I rewatch the video a second and then a third time. I cried each time. Castile was shot 3-5 times by an officer in the St. Anthony Police Department in Falcon Heights, Minnesota with a 4-year-old child in the backseat. After the third viewing of the video I got myself out of bed, had coffee, and dressed for work.
I did a lot of driving today and had time to think. In respiratory therapy we care for all ages and are usually in the room when patients pass. I have watch many people die over the years from working in the hospital. I have witnessed newborns, children of different ages, young adults, elderly, trauma patients, burn victim, and terminal patient’s deaths. I know this will sound cold but I do not linger on death. I think of the part of my job dealing with death is an honor. I am blessed to help people pass with dignity and hopefully without pain; but I do not linger on their deaths. It is a coping mechanism.
I could not get the image of Castile bleeding to death out of my mind. Hours after watching the video I am still numb. The shock is lingering. I was not going to write anything. I was just going to go home and ignore this feeling; but then I thought about the poem by Pastor Martin Niemöller:
First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out--
Because I was not a Socialist.
Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out--
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.
Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out--
Because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.
I am a supporter of the police and I know every officer is not a bad officer. The good officers need to speak up and call out the bad ones. Just like we (white people) need to speak up and support the African American community.
If we, White people, do not speak up then who will? If we don’t demand the killings to stop, then who will? If we don’t embrace our friends, neighbors…hell, strangers of color WHO WILL?
We, need to speak up. We need to demand justice...this is where I was stopped in my track by that small voice in the back of my mind.
Who are the “we, white people” I was writing about?
I need to speak up.
I need to demand justice.
I need to embrace my fellow man.
So here I am a white middle aged woman saying:
Stop the murdering.
Officers, stop covering for bad officers.
If you are white SPEAK UP!
African Americans should not be afraid of the police. They should not be the only ones protesting. They should not be the only ones speaking up!
How do we, White people, speak up?
How will you SPEAK UP?
Welcome to My Favorite Things Wednesday!
Have you ever put on a pair of shoes and wondered how you walked before you found them?
I have! I bought my first pair of Chacos 4 years ago. My first pair Zong X Ecotread double strap came in the mail; and I ordered my second pair that same day (same model with a single strap). Since I live in the warm south, I literally wore these Chacos 10-months out of the year. I can walk all day and my feet do not hurt! Considering I have bad feet and walking across my house in barefoot is like walking on needles. I can wear Chacos and not feel like an old lady. Every other shoe I found that felt half way decent looked like elderly shoes…not a good look for a 30 or 40-year-old!
My favorite Chacos have adjustable straps and are "fit for adventure". I have worn my Chacos on the way to ankle surgery, through airports, at the beach, pools, lakes, on boats, to work, to Disney World, graduations, weddings, funerals, football games, baseball games, literally everywhere I go I can wear Chacos! I wear Chacos everyday... year round! Beside my two favorite pair pictured above I own flip flops and shoes.
There are endless possibilities for mixing and matching foot bed and straps. You should really check them out! Click here for an interactive quiz to find the perfect Chacos for you!
So, do you own Chacos?
Where do you wear your Chacos?
Show me your #ChacoNation
List of my favorite things:
I have the honor to say I was raised by two great men. One, is my father. He worked multiple jobs but always put his family first. He showed me unconditional love and challenged me to never settle for average. He taught me to question everything and to always be curious.
My second father, is my father-in-law. I married at 17-years-old and still had a lot of raising to be done. He has the patience of a saint, which he needed when this obnoxious teenager married into his family...questioning everything.
I am blessed to say for 44 years I have had a great example of determination and for 27 years I have had the great example of patience.
Today, I want to tell my dad thank you for molding me into a determined curious adult. And to my father-in-law, thank you for showing me how patience is a strength!
What did your dad teach you?
I am not a Doctor of Philosophy. I am a Doctor of Health Science. I know, I know, y’all are all shocked but it is what it is. Seriously, most of those reading do not know the difference or even really care. I have found that most of the people that care work in academia. So, let me explain to you the difference.
PhD = Doctor of Philosophy
DHSc = Doctor of Health Science
A person with a PhD has the same level of education as a person with a DHSc. The one with a PhD work on a dissertation and the one with a DHSc work an applied research project. That’s it, the main difference in a nut shell. They are both doctors just took different routes to get there. Kind of like a Doctor of Dental Medicine (DDM) and Doctor of Dental Surgery (DDS) are both dentist, with different initials.
I say “From GED to PhD” because average person would not know what I meant is I said “from GED to DHSc”. Plus, that just does not flow well. I just wanted to clear the air before someone that does know the difference tries to call me out…too late. I outed myself!
My favorite thing for this week is coffee. I love a good cup of coffee anytime of the day! I felt guilty about all the waste my K-pods produce. I tried the reusable cups but were put off by the extra work (defeats the purpose of a single use pod). I tried a few different coffees that were ecofriendly before stumbling upon my FAVORITE COFFEE EVER! I ordered a sampler box of San Francisco Bay Coffee OneCup from Amazon. I love the breakfast blend. The other coffees were good but not my favorite.
I now only drink San Francisco Bay OneCup breakfast blend and do not feel guilty. Why?...Because their pods are different. The lid, ring that holds lid to mesh, and coffee are compostable. The mesh will be soon. Find out more here. Not that I don’t love mother earth but if the coffee was bad, I would not buy it. So, it is a great bonus that you can get great coffee and help the earth (who doesn’t love a 2 for 1). #UpgradeYourKup with #OneCup
I mentioned to a colleague a few months ago that I was leaning toward starting a minimalist lifestyle. She then told me about Project 333. I was mulling over the idea of the Project 333 when I came across The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo. I read the book cover to cover in one night. Between these resources I was hooked. I knew ‘fixing’ my closet would be the only way for me to find my style.
I had NO STYLE! I wore t-shirts and short 8-months out of the year and t-shirts and jeans the other 4-months. I need a style that would be mine, easy to maintain (I am t-shirt and shorts girl at heart), and looked put together. I am lucky I work in a department with no dress code, so I can make my wardrobe really comfortable.
So I took the basic rules for Project 333 and The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing (Rules are spelled out at end of post) and tweaked them to fit my life.
Here are my steps to a minimalist wardrobe according to me:
I have been doing this for 8-months now. I started with the Fall/Winter closet. I am now on the Summer closet. I can count on my hands the number of complements I had on my clothes before I started this. I now get complements daily…. on t-shirts! What the heck!
I did not have 40 articles that fit correct and made me happy. I had to purchase items to complete my closet for Fall/Winter. I did this slowly over a few months and only bought things that fit correct and made me happy. My Summer closet had more than 40 articles. I weeded out the ones that did not go with more than one outfit. I placed those article in the pack-away bag. If I get bored with my current 40 items I can rotate some of those items back in later.
The specifics of my summer closet is in the gallery below.
My morning routine is shorter, less stressful, and I am happier. Less is more…more time, more happiness, more at ease with myself. Yes, it took one whole day but the time was well worth the reward.
Do you have a minimalist closet? What rules do you follow?
Less is more,
The Rules (Project 333)
The Tips (The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing)
1. Sort by category, not location: Don't do the bedrooms first, then the living room, then the rest of the house. Do all your clothes, then all your books, etc.
2. Tidy in one go. Don't draw it out. If you tidy a bit each day, you'll find that you're tidying forever. Do it all at once and you'll have the system in place to stay tidy.
3. Pick up each item one at a time and ask yourself, "Does it spark joy?"
4. Fold your clothes so that they stand up vertically. This way, you can put all your t-shirts (or other items) in a drawer and see every item at once, rather than digging through piles of fabric to find the shirt you want.
5. Don't repurpose clothes to loungewear. Don't justify keeping a torn, ratty T-shirt just because you think you can repurpose it as a pajama top.
6. Recycle your papers. For important legal documents, scan them! Everything else you should get rid of.
7. Don't keep gifts out of guilt. After the joy of the gift-giving moment is through, you can donate the gift without guilt. It has served its purpose.
8. Storage experts are hoarders. A "clever" storage solution never really solves anything. A new box or organizer won't make you tidy. Pursue ultimate simplicity.
9. Start with what you know will be easy to get rid of. If you start with mementos or items you attach a functional value, it will be harder to know if they spark joy. Start with items that are easier to make decisions about, and then you will be in the right mindset to tackle mementos later.
List from Today.com by Meena Hart Duerson
This is a quick post to celebrate all those that have survived or are surviving cancer. Do something special for yourself today!
I am a huge promoter on early screening. My colon cancer was found at Stage 1, which made it very treatable and not life threatening. Knowing my body and the changes that occurred with my body was a huge part of my early detection. If you notice changes in your normal body (bowel changes, lumps, shortness of breath, fatigue, fevers, sweats, brittle nails, etc) see you doctor. If you are not satisfied with what your doctor tells you or your gut tells you it’s not right, get a second, third, fourth opinion. Do not put your head in the sand and take the word of one doctor if you know something is wrong. Be your own advocate! Be a fighter!
Welcome to My Favorite Things Wednesday!
My favorite thing for this week is placing my fat butt into a bathing suit. I know that is not something you hear often form an overweight, pasty, middle aged woman but I love my board shorts. To be clear, I love my board shorts from Board Shorts World. I live on the coast in the south. It is hot and most of the year we wear shorts. We have a pool that I use daily for about 8 months out of the year. I struggled finding a swim suit I felt comfortable in and would hold up to a lot of wear.
I bought a pair of board shorts a few years ago from Board Shorts World. I love them! They are very comfortable and come in just about any size. All if their products are handcrafted in California since 1998. I own a few pair of their board shorts, and bikini top, and head band. If you ever see me in the bikini top get your affairs in order because the world is ending soon! But seriously, I have a tankini I will wear if I am around company. Back to the shorts, they dry fast, are super soft, hold up to years of wear, will fit almost any size, and look awesome on.
So if you are looking for a great pair of shorts, give Board Shorts World a try!
List of my favorite things:
Disclaimer: I have not been compensated by any companies. This is an honest unbiased opinion.
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